Tuesday, November 25, 2014

My Freelance Life: It's The Real Deal

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    Let me precurse this entire piece by saying, this is my rant, a chance for me to vent and a chance for me to let people in on some secrets that, I'm sure, they're just dying to know. This post has been sitting as a draft for several months now. But recently, I was inspired to change it a little and finish the damn thing. Because, recently, I was yet again insulted by what was supposed to be an educator, a retired teacher that was supposed to have spent her adult life encouraging and inspiring a plethora of young adults. Well, she never inspired me and by now, she's insulted me one too many times. 

    If you know nothing about my job, aka: "what I do for a living," then you may be a part of the giant mass of people that ask me what I "do" and have that squishy-faced look that just means you're confused. Allow me to give you some advice. 
  1. Stop asking people what they "do," when you want to know what their job is. Instead, just ask what their job is! I do a lot, everyday, and everyday is different, so when I'm asked what I "do," the list can get quite hefty. 
  2. When you don't necessarily understand or know what someone does, ask them to explain it, or simply tell them you're not sure, instead of saying, "Oh." It's insulting and dismissive.
  3. Don't assume that if a woman is not a teacher or a nurse that she doesn't have a "real job." Teachers and nurses (and the like) should be respected and praised, but just because we all didn't travel the more frequented route doesn't mean we don't have a work schedule or make money, or have a "real job."
   Now for the ex-teacher that has asked me twice what I'm doing now that I've graduated college and was disappointed that I wasn't teacher "or something like that," and didn't care to ask me what I freelanced as, this post is dedicated to you and all the others I run across on a weekly basis that give me the same rolled-eyes and sighing, Oh's. 

   Firstly, I graduated at the very top of my college with a B.A. in Communication. I graduated with honors (the very top, the very highest of honors), Summa Cum Laude, which I can prove because they printed it, nice and big, onto my diploma. I chose to take the road less traveled because I had parents and a fiance that encouraged me to do what I enjoyed. But the key here is that I had and made the opportunity. I got accepted to Johns Hopkins University, their Masters program for Communication. And I got in, not having to take the GRE because my GPA was high during undergrad. So, despite my blonde hair, hot pink lipstick and a deep affection for sparkly clothing, I'm a smarty-pants and a hard worker. 

   My day-to-day revolves around my freelance work. I have a constant schedule of articles that I have a deadline for, that I get paid for. Yes, I have the blessing (and sometimes a curse) of making my own schedule. But that doesn't mean I sit on my butt whenever I'm home, eating Oreos in front of the couch just "typing" away on my computer. In fact, when I'm home, I barely just take time to sit on the couch and do nothing. Not only do I keep up with my deadlines Sunday-Thursday, but I am constantly on the lookout and in connection with others forming new relationships and looking for new opportunities, everyday. If there was a job that you literally had to "hustle" for, it's for freelance opportunities. But then again, one of the jobs I've always wanted to have along with being a published author and freelance guru, was to be a mother, and this scheduling will be a huge blessing when that blessing comes to call. You can see how, I've done my homework and planning.

    I work mostly alone. Which means that I rarely have anyone to bounce ideas off of or to ask if I'm doing this or that correctly. I'm my own boss, which again is a blessing and curse because when I fail then it's a failure that's all my own. And yes I fail, I've gotten more rejections than opportunities but that's life and because I'm in a creative field, whether it's a design project or a black and white journalistic idea, the chances are not endless.

    My work is at home. That means when I do have time to just relax, I feel guilty. Instead of relaxing, I could be working and being more productive, which is why those Oreos are rarely eaten on the couch in a time of nothingness, instead they're eaten during an article or an outline. But, yes, they're eaten because the pantry is only a few feet away. I've had to negotiate my worth time and time again, for every job. And sometimes I lose jobs or don't take amazing opportunities because it doesn't pay enough. I'm also juggling more than one job at a time, which means I'm juggling more than one client and more than one type of direction.

    I shouldn't feel guilty about being able to do and work on my time, because I've created this opportunity for myself. This type of work rarely "just happens," but instead, it's worked hard for. So, the next time someone gives me a side glance or a smart comment like, "o, so you just type on the computer," I can point them to the direction of this post. Again, this is my rant, my venting and my small bit of frustration with those that keep within the confines of a very small box outlined too many years ago. 

   I also want to clarify that I love writing and creating content for different websites and blogs. I've made everywhere from $10 an hour to $1 a minute, to 60 GBP (which translates into roughly $93 depending on the day) an hour. It's eventful, it's fun, but my goal is to not stay at this pace my entire life. I will push to continue to grow and find new (and fun) opportunities, all the while I'll also be creating some behind-the-scenes surprises. So, when my first book is published and on the shelves, I'll also send it, free of charge to all those who gave me more than my fair share of disdain.

   To my fellow freelancers and blogger entrepreneurs, today's applause goes to you because I'm sure you've had to deal with very similar situations.

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Sunday, November 16, 2014

Claire's Bedroom: A Flying French Kite

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Excuse the sun in my eyes, but the blouse deserved another round of applause.

Found at Goodwill months & months ago, I thought to myself, "I will buy this. And one day when I am pregnant, I will wear it. And when I wear it I will feel like Lucille Ball when she wore her swing tops pregnant with Little Ricky."











We are now nearing 30 weeks and everything is stable in Claire-land. In the meantime, we'll check out another beautiful accent her Grandmom made for her room. A French-inspired kite with whimsical buttons, bows and tails .... my mom is quite the creative.  

 *again please excuse the poor excuse for lighting. I snapped these photos in a jiffy without grabbing the lighting equipment. I promise to be more prepared when her entire room is revealed. 


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Saturday, November 8, 2014

Quick Peeks at Claire's Baby Shower



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It all started with cake truffles and ended with a lot of love and generosity from all of the wonderful women in my life. Check out some of my favorite shots from Claire's baby shower!


Homemade treats, help from my best friends and so many wonderful presents to help Claire start off on the right (and stylish) foot, it was a perfect afternoon. 

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Saturday, November 1, 2014

Our 3rd Annual Witches' Ball

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 Just a few sprinkles from our adventures last night ... We had lines of trick or treaters, we snacked on swamp dips and ear wax, we caught some scenes from Hocus Pocus, we cast a few spells, we even had a visit from some CDC reps ... ya know, typical Halloween night. 

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